On this journey that we call life we encounter alot of things, make alot of decisions (some good and some bad), and we have a choice to learn from it all.
When our parents bring us into this world, I’m sure with high hopes in some cases. Some found themselves pregnant and had to just deal with the hand they were dealt. Parents make sacrafices for their children on so many levels that children, hopefully as they grow up to be adults, will be able to look back and say “wow, now I get it.”
What happens when a mother does all that she can do for a child, but the child, now an adult, seems to still embrace the “mindset” that the world owes them something? How did they arrive at that mindset in the first place?
What would you think if you had to raise a child the best that you could, on a fixed income, but giving them the best of everything you could afford, ensuring that they had a “childhood,” making sure that you were there when they arrived home from school everyday and seeing to it that they were taken care of daily, only to have them turn around and never graduate high school, struggle all of their life to get a GED….oh let me back up…
This child had a job as a teenager, but felt like the bills (that they helped create) we’re just his mother’s responsibility. Later, the child moves out in anger because they didn’t want to help their own mother who sacraficed her life for them. All of their adult life has partied, gone from job to job, ended up homeless and near homeless to find themselves right back at home with their mother at the age of 48 and still has the “mindset” that the world owes them something.
Why would a grown man want to live with his mother and not help to make her life better? Why is it that he feels violated when she asks him questions concerning his life and what he plans to do to better himself? How can a man, living with his mother, curse his mother and expect things to go well in his life?
We are put on this Earth to help each other, at least that’s what I thought. I know that we all have our struggles, Lord knows I’m not on the “world’s best people” list, but when did it become ok to disrespect our parents when it was them that God used to get us here in the first place. We all have purpose and a right to find out what that is, but I’m just one to think that as you seek to “change” your life and you find yourself back at home with “mommy” wouldn’t you want to do all that you could to help contribute to her longevity, especially since you’d be homeless without her? Wouldn’t you want to do your part to contribute to the running and upkeep of the household instead of trying to hide money for selfish reasons? Is It Real Change? or are you just fooling yourself?
Change requires growth, and anything that isn’t changing, sincerely, isn’t growing and anything or person that isn’t growing is dead or dying. Let us seek our purpose and life fulfillment in such a way that it helps and not hinders others. Let us embrace the fact that we are where we are because of our own life choices. Let us look in the mirror and say to ourselves, “from this day forward I’m going to do and be better.” We have a responsibilty when we faulter to pick ourselves us up, brush ourselves off, and keep going forward. Sometimes that going forward will require a different route than the one we’ve chosen, but its something we must do or we would have to ask ourselves Is It Real Change that we’re seeking or are we just fooling ourselves?
I hope this post provokes a thought and/or an action in my readers to make a change.