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Long Time Coming

OH MY Gosh!   So much has happened since the last time I’ve written.

The hubby and I have moved.  Our family (hubby, baby brother (39) Mom) took a family trip to Tennessee to celebrate my aunts 71st birthday.  My oldest brother couldn’t go because he had been in the hospital for 3 weeks with a diagnosis of first Pneumonia then Mesothelioma, then just lung cancer.  We enjoyed the trip as much as possible but always kept in close contact with my oldest brother, we wanted him to go so bad even before he got sick, but even more when we found out, but he couldn’t travel.  He wanted us to go and enjoy ourselves because our family had been planning the trip since January and we would only be gone 2 days, but for me it was two long days.

The good part about it is that we got a chance to take a trip with our mom, which we had never done and she really enjoyed herself.  It was 157 degrees in Tennessee that weekend but we didn’t care.  We got a chance to see family that we hadn’t seen in years and meet some cool new people too. We can’t wait for the next one, but I plan to have my oldest brother with us this time.  I believe God to heal him.

Still doing a lot of reading, studying, and note taking for the love of my life, creating fragrance oils, and skin care products.  Meeting new people that are adding substance to my life and causing me to stretch….that’s always a good thing for me.

I just wanted to stop in and drop a note to connect with you all.  Thanks so much for reading.

So, what have you been up to lately?

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Posted by on July 30, 2013 in General

 

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That Time Again

Yes, it’s the time of year that I love most; Fall/Winter.  I don’t know if its because of what it represents, hibernation of nature and renewing itself for the warmer months that are sure to come back, or if it’s because of the changing of colors of the trees, to start anyway, and then the snow that makes everything so beautiful when it first falls.

This time of year does represent something spiritual for me.  I remember a long time ago that somebody told me that the colors that the leaves change to are always there, they just don’t appear until it’s their season, their time.  For some reason this struck me as information straight from God.  I thought to myself, “that’s just like the people of God.”  You know that God has a work for all of us to do, but the timing and release for us to walk in that work isn’t always when we think or desire.  While we are waiting for God to release us, we are molded, cultivated, pruned, trimmed, plucked, planted, fed, and watered.  All those things keep us “green” while the Lord perfects us and when our “season” comes, He releases us and our “colors” come through.

Then when it comes to the snow, it puts me in the mindset of the Blood of Jesus and how he covered, but rather took away our sin.  The snow when it first falls is so white and untouched.  God looks at us through the blood of Jesus and the finished work of the cross, so when the snow falls it always gives me a gentle reminder of what The Father has done for me.

The colors of Fall are so rich and warming. Sometimes I can even detect a hint of Fall fragrance in the air when I see certain colors, just warms me right up on the inside.  Then we have the Christmas season of winter, with the decorations and lights, and festive colors.  It keeps me in a festive, yet creative mood and mindset throughout the whole season.  I love to go to different cities where there are different cultures to see how they decorate and celebrate.

The food, the movies, cartoons, clothes, getting together with friends from near and far, taking silly photos, hugs, kisses, Hot cocoa, sweet potato pie, and a host of other things that just give me a warm fuzzy feeling at this time of year.  Sometimes I wish that I could bottle or box it all up, and open it up to pour out in the middle of summer because for some reason people are more loving, more caring, and more considerate of others at this time of year.  If we could get that going all year, the world would be a better place, but that’s wishful thinking.

Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts.  I hope you have an Amazing Day!

 
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Posted by on November 10, 2012 in General, Spiritual Encouragement

 

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Behold, I Shall Do A New Thing!

Hello Everybody!

It’s been a while since I’ve written anything and I’ve really been going back and forth in my head as to what to write about, whether it be what’s new with Fragrance Cafe’ or my personal life adventures 🙂 or, my spiritual journey.

Well, many of you can probably tell that I’ve chose the Spiritual Journey.

To fill you in a little; my hubby and I joined ourselves to a new ministry after being loyal members of another ministry for about 12 years.  This happened after God began to show some things that He wanted us to know concerning His Kingdom, Kingdom Living, and the true function of a ministry.

As He began to reveal some things to us, it became evident, although not comfortable, that it was time for us to get ready to leave this particular ministry.  We stayed before God concerning this matter because after all, I was spiritually born in this particular ministry.

OK, fast forward, at the beginning of this year The Father began to speak through His prophets concerning His Will for us and what it is that He has in store for us as well as what He wants to do through us.  All year long He confirmed and reconfirmed all that He started speaking at the beginning of the year, and now He is speaking some things to me that are new.

It’s funny how when you receive a word from the Lord through one of His Prophets, you get that feeling of “uh oh, so, that is God and I’m not crazy”  or some may call it a feeling of confirmation.  At the beginning of the year The Lord began to tell my husband and I that He is going to restore us.  Then He said it again, and again, and again for a total of six times.  I’m thinking to myself, “when God tells you something concerning your life, you feel honored that He would speak to you. After all I’m speaking of The Creator of The Universe.”  The fact that God would send 6 different people who don’t know each other, or me and husband, to say “I’m going to restore you” you tend to not only be convinced, but if there is any gratitude in you at all worship should flow from your lips like a fountain.

Then one day a lady came to me and said “yes, you are a prophetic psalmist.”  I was like oh God, please don’t do this…why is it that we always feel unworthy, when God has deemed us worthy?….She began to tell me how God knows that I’ve been holding back and that He didn’t want me to hold back anymore.  She said “Apostle already knows, he’s just waiting for you to come to him so, you need to be obedient and go.”  So, I did, I went to my Apostle and told him what had been said to me and he said “yes, I knew it the first day you took the pulpit, I’m just sad that it hasn’t been cultivated before now, but its there and don’t worry, we’re watching and we’re with you.”

Since the first time the prophetic word was spoken about me moving in the realm of the prophetic, God continues to confirm over and over that this is what He wants for me.  I’m so honored and in awe of God right now.  I continue to say “yes Lord, be it unto me as You have spoken, I accept the call.”  I continue to ask God to bind my ear to His voice.  I continue to worship Him with my life, and learn and study how I can be a blessing to others.  Just when you think you’ve got it all down, God says “Behold, I shall do a new thing!”

 
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Posted by on October 29, 2012 in Spiritual Encouragement

 

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My Absence

Hello Everyone and Happy Friday to you. It’s been so long since I’ve been able to access my blog thanks to an unmentionable search engine (internet explorer), but I’m back now.
It was so frustrating not being able to connect with you all. Those that come to my email I could read but not respond at all. So, look forward to some responses on some past blogs on my favorites.

So much has been going on. I’ve created some new fragrances and a couple new products. Of course I’m always reading and researching to see what I could come up with next.

Things are moving right along at the new church home, it’s been officially 5 months since we’ve joined now.

Of course you can’t have life without its ups and downs and I’ve had a few of those too. I’ve also had some very inspirational contact with old friends and new ones. I’m grateful for that.

Now tell me, what have I missed with you all…don’t spare any details.

 
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Posted by on July 20, 2012 in General

 

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Still Thinking Like A Lady

The very thought of this movie makes me laugh. I don’t mean that in a bad way, I mean it in the best of the best ways.

April 20th was my 10 year anniversary and my husband and I went to the movies. Now let me just say that I love romantic comedies. He on the other hand does not. He will watch one with me if I ask, but I hardly ever ask because I don’t like to watch a movie with someone when they keep falling asleep. LOL. He is a science fiction, action/adventure, straight up hero type of movie man. I love that about him because I have come to love those too, thanks to him.

Ok, so anyway, at his recommendation, when we get to the theater he says “let’s see Act Like a Lady Think Like A Man” At first I was reluctant because I thought it was going to be a man bash/woman bash type of movie. I was sooooooooooo wrong.

I thoroughly enjoyed this movie. Yes, it did give up some of the secrets that men have held dear for centuries, but it didn’t let the women off the hook that easily either. What I loved about this movie is that first, my hubby stayed awake through the whole thing, LOL. Second, it really did have us laughing uncontrolably out loud. I mean I laughed liked I haven’t laughed in a long time at a movie that wasn’t a cartoon…yes, we love those too, espesically Disney Pixar. Third, this movie made you take a look at yourself and how you may be contributing to the success or downfall of any relationship, not just between men and women, but in your freindships with other people too.

All in all this movie was well balanced in my opinion. It drew your attention to the fact that men and women must be willing to compromise in the relationship to make happiness a reality. I give it 6 thumbs up, but because I only have 2, I give it two high fives. 🙂

Did you see this movie? I would love to know what you thought of it…no bashing please.

 
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Posted by on April 24, 2012 in General

 

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Good Deeds For Sure

Ok, so last weekend a few friends (the hubby, and the worship team of my church) and I all got together to see the new movie by Tyler Perry. The main reason I wanted to see it is because I had been reading a few Face book stats from men saying that it was a typical “Tyler Perry, angry woman gets saved by a nice guy” movie…and I not only disliked the remark, but just felt that Tyler has so much more in him than that.
So, during the movie I had some moments of laughter, thought provoking moments, and truly gut wrench crying moments. This movie put it all out there. I mean just when you think that you know the woman that you might work with, how she’s always angry and snappy, how she seems to always be running late and having excuses; this movie makes you stop and say “wow, you just never know what the next person may be dealing with in their life outside of the job.”
I found myself shaking my head in pain for this woman as one bad thing after another, after another, after another just seemed to fall in her path. I know a few women that have dealt with the very thing that this woman dealt with in this movie, but the only thing is that they had to just struggle through. Nobody came to their aid, nobody was in their life who could really do a “Good Deed” to bring them out of their situation. When you see people in your life struggle, regardless of how they got there, and you CAN’T do a thing to help them directly it crushes you on the inside. I watched this movie with so much emotion because to me it was like watching a 20/20 story or documentary…well in actuality it was a documentary. How many of you have been or know of somebody who’s been in that situation or almost in that situation? Either way it is a scary thought.
Even the seemed to be angry and ungrateful brother had some underlying issues as to why he “seemed” angry, ungrateful, and even bitter. You just never know what is in the heart of a person; which is why its so important to walk in love toward people in this world. As humans we face 100 million things on a day to day basis, some of which connect us in so many ways that we really don’t have the room or time to be judgmental of each other because we all have something that we are dealing with. What you deal with may not be what I have to deal with, but it still remains that we all are connected by certain human struggles.
At first look this woman just seemed to have a really really bad day, but as you sit and watch and take in all that is going on you see that she is in this predicament do to a loss in her life and her having to make a quick decision to keep her and her daughter afloat.
Wesley, who is “The Man” in the movie, even had his own issues that he had to deal with, but as he learned more about this woman, he also learned more about himself and his real dreams and desires for life. His character showed me the sacrifices that we as people sometimes make, all with good intentions, but can be detrimental to our own dreams for our lives. His desire to make sure that the dreams of his father and mother stayed afloat was draining him, to say the least, as he worked endlessly to appear in control of it all. He had dreams of his own that were on the back burner because of what his mother “wanted” for the family business. The disrespectful and degrading relationship of the younger brother and the mother made me literally want to slap his face…LOL…I’m so serious, but later I understood, he too had a dream. It was amazing to watch one brother live the dream of the other while putting his dream on hold and the other brother become bitter and resentful to him for “living his dream” so to speak.
When Wesley really found out the truth of what was going on with this woman there was something in him that would not allow him to just sit by and watch, but he absolutely had to do something. This was so inspirational to me because of the dreams that I have to help people on a larger scale, but for now I do what I can.
What a different type of world we would be living in if as a people when we see others that truly need help step up and do something to help them. We may not be able to do it all but there is something that we all can do and if we just start there change would really be obtainable.
One thing I can say about this movie, without making this movie review into a book, LOL, is that it pricked my heart. It made me take a lot of things into consideration in my life and the lives of those that I come into contact with. This movie makes you go into yourself and for me that’s always a good thing to leave a movie with. Entertainment is a good thing, but a life changing thought provoking movie encounter is something totally different. I’m proud of Tyler Perry and Good Deeds. If you haven’t seen it, you should go see it.

 
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Posted by on March 15, 2012 in General

 

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EGG SHELLS??

I’ve arrived at a time in my life where I’m realizing and accepting a lot of things.
The first thing that I’ve really come to accept is that I’m not perfect. Yes, yes, yes, I know you’re thinking “well, none of us are perfect,” but saying that and living it with conviction is two totally different things.
Living the fact that we aren’t perfect means that when people put their expectations on us we no longer try to live up to those expectations without regard for our own life’s happiness. The past for me was a lot different. Having people in my life that put their expectations on me, and try to hold me up to some higher standard when it comes to my treatment of them had me for years walking on EGG SHELLS…I’m mean to the point that everything that I did I always stopped to consider whether or not it would hurt one particular person or a group of persons feelings. For a long time this made miserable because little did I know that the more I accepted their behavior the more I gave them permission to treat me that way.
I was always double checking to see how what my decisions would do to them or if something that I said or did offended them. I never took into account my own feelings and how their treatment of me was affecting my outlook about myself. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that we are suppose to act in such a manner that we could care less about what the people that we have in our lives say or think, but what I am saying is that it is wrong for a person to hold anybody to a standard of expectation in a relationship that clearly under minds another. All relationships that we have or engage in should be MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL. To allow a person to always take, take, take, from you in anyway, whether it be naturally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, and they don’t pour back into you is to set yourself up to be depleted of all of your resources regardless to what they are.
I have learned that when people hold you up to their expectations that’s exactly what they are, THEIR EXPECTATIONS. I came to a decision that Egg Shells were never made to be walked on and therefore, I have decided to retire my EGG SHELL WALKING and move on to walking on a clear and stable path for myself, my life in general, and even in my life with my husband (which began to be affected by my Egg Shell Walking)…I’ve taken my life back.
I know that there are those that no longer desire to be a part of my life, but that just makes room for more MUTUALLY BENEFICIAL RELATIONSHIPS; after all, that’s what I asked God for.
I must tell you that it is far better and easier to just be me, and let others be who they are. We as people don’t have to always agree, but I feel that we can always find a way to respect each other, and honor each other without pushing our expectations off on each other.
I’ve learned to truly accept that I’m not perfect, striving to always grow to be better, and the fact of the matter is nobody else is either, so, I won’t push my own expectations off on them.
NO MORE EGG SHELLS!

Feel free to comment, I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

 
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Posted by on February 13, 2012 in General, Spiritual Encouragement

 

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