So, all week last week, leading up to Valentine’s Day, I read numerous articles about love. I read countless inspirational messages to husbands and wives encouraging us to love each especially on this particular day. I even had a not so pleasant encounter with a “religious” elderly lady about the relationship between husbands and wives as it relates to pornography. It was an interesting week to see how people shared their love for each other. Some people made it their business to make sure that we knew about the origin of Valentine’s day and why they choose not to celebrate it, and how it’s been made so commercial and no longer really means anything to people.
A friend of mine asked me “how are you and the hubby going to celebrate Valentine’s day?” I told him that my husband and I really don’t make a big deal of Valentine’s Day as some normally do because we have something that we call “gotcha.” It’s where he and I find little ways to gift each other with special little surprises all year round so, if we exchange “valentines” on Valentine’s Day its just another regular expression of our love. If we don’t exchange “Valentines” on Valentine’s Day it’s just another day that we didn’t do our “gotcha.” Now later on in the day we did decide to do a little celebrating with marital things…LOL and wine and good food, but something else happened that, for me, made it all the more special. We talked. Yes, we talked. We talked about why we love each other. We talked about why we know that we are the only ones for each other. We talked about how to improve our communication of love to one another and a whole list of other topics.
He and I never have been the type of people that just go with the flow of what everybody else is doing from one day to the next, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
People celebrate different “holidays” for different reasons. I for one, will never allow the superstitions, unbeliefs, ill will, or even flat out ignorance and/or disdain for one day or another lock me into a way of thinking that is not productive or edifying for me and mine.
People have their reasons for not celebrating Christmas, New Year’s Eve, Halloween, July 4th, etc….and that’s exactly what they are, “their reasons.” If there is a conviction that I feel from the Lord about one day or another then I will walk according to what God has spoken concerning me. Until then, if its something that encourages me, makes me feel good on the inside, edifies me, or just plain ole makes me smile then it is something that I will partake in. After all, why spend valuable time arguing about hatred and ill will when all most were seeking for is A Day of Love. As for people judging what I do and do not celebrate, I handle it according to this: Romans 14:1-23 and leave it at that.